The Essence of Success (Audiobook)
Rules for a healthy self image
- Forgive others (important)
- Forgive yourself
- Make conscious choice to face eah day with confidence
- Keep up with yourself, march to your own drum and don’t worry about what others are doing
- Begin appreciating other people more, focus on things you like about other people rather than dislike
Quotes: Act don’t react
A friend bought a paper and thanked vendor. Vendor didn’t so much as acknowledge the friend. Why do you continue being so polite to the vendor? Why not? Why should I let him decide how I’m going to act? The friend acts towards people. Many of us react. No boar will distract the equilibrium of his nature. If he responds with incivility, he would no longer be in command of his own conduct, but a mere responder to others.
No one’s more unhappy than the perpetual reactor. His center of emotional gravity is not rooted in himself. But I’m the world outside him. He’s a mere creature at the mercy of these elements
Praise gives him a feeling of euphoria. Which is false because it doesn’t last and doesn’t come from self approval
Criticism depresses him more than it should because it confirms his secret beliefs about himself
Mere suspicion of unpopularity rouses him to bitterness or aggressiveness
We are as we see others. If you love others you are loveable, if you trust others you’re trustworthy
We are least tolerant of those negative traits in others that we ourselves possess. If we are suspicious about intentions of others it’s because our own could be the same
We create others in our own image.
Most people are subjective towards ourselves and objective towards others. The reverse should be aimed for
Be objective towards oneself.
Strength and tolerance are partnered. Strong people are tolerant around everyone, their family, peers, bosses. Instead of asking what other people act differently to you, ask why you’re reacting the way you are
The tolerant person asks what the reason is that someone is like that
Quotes: Creativity
To cease to live creatively is but little different from ceasing to live - Ben Franklin